Sunday, September 27, 2009

What Women, Mother Nature and Ibu Pertiwi Have In Common?

Today, being a woman is complicated on all fronts.

She studies hard to get into college and to graduate with flying colours but when she goes for job interviews, she hears this too often “Oh! We are actually looking for men to fill in the positions”.

p.s. Our higher learning centres are swarmed by female students, hence more female graduates and explains why now we have more jobless graduates.

She stays single and people push her to get hitch. Once she’s married, they ask her when she’s going to have her baby. When she gets her baby and needs all the supports from them, no one comes forward.

p.s. It was reported that slightly more than of cancer patients are women below the age of 50 and it is observed that women who keep things to themselves (out of shame to share their problems due to family/society pressure) have a higher tendency to suffer from one and sadly, by the time they are diagnosed, the cancer would have been almost terminal stage. Apart from cancer, mental illnesses like schizophrenia, panic disorders and OCD.

She has to satisfy the needs of her beloved husband and family. She cleans and cleanses. She teaches and learns. She cooks and serves. She thinks and solves. She does repair works around the house, inside the heart and all over the physical body. She cares and dares. She wakes up early and stays up late. She is tired yet she looks so pretty. When she should be called the “Superwoman”, men think she is all prim and proper because she has a rich husband and 2 maids at home and a driver to boot.

She is answerable to her bosses. She has to do Bruce Lee’s Kung Fu fighting so she could climb up the corporate ladder while the boys only have to do their Pencak Silat Pengantin. She would be assigned to ‘House Cleaning Department’ while the boy would continue helming the ‘Good For Talking Cock Department’ at higher salary scales.

She has to endure verbal and physical abuse when she’s behind the wheels. Well, most of the time - even when she is carrying a precious gift of life inside her womb.

She risks her life, modesty and dignity – inside and outside her house – because you men out there do not really care about her. She may have an abusive husband but our Men in Blue could take no actions because there are no visible injuries on her. She tries hard to guard her handbag with all her might, even when she has only RM2.00 in her purse – her bus fares for the day but she is still the main target for snatch thieves. Where are our Men in Blue that should protect her out there? Where are our Men in the Kabinet who should create more jobs so no one has to resort to stealing to stay alive?

She goes to work and she has to do house works. Men just go to work.

She works and he works so she thought they could provide better to the family. Sometimes, she works because he never provides enough for the family. Only this time around, she would see where women are treated equally to men. Yes, when it comes to responsibilities and money.

She bears his children and that is when he files for divorce. He left for another woman and left nothing for her and the children. She goes to Pejabat Kadi and gets an earful of lectures and condemnation from thethat her husband left her because she doesn’t know how to take care of him. All Kadis are men.

Please God, she is just a woman with a delicate body, mind and soul yet she provides so much for those around her. Sometimes, I think that most social ills that plague our society and the world over are attributed by the mal(e)-function of our male counterparts in discharging their obligations, their responsibilities or for simply failing to be sensible human beings.

If only men could treat us, women, better for in every woman, there is a mother in her. If only men could comprehend the importance of mother, which explains why we called our Planet Earth as Mother Nature and we called this beloved country of ours as Ibu Pertiwi.

They say “A mother could take care of her 10 children yet her 10 children would not be able to take care of their one and only mother”.

Perhaps, after reading this, we would all see a mother differently, in better shades of light, with due Godly respect, for Abraham Lincoln says “No man is a poor man as long as he has a Godly Mother” and William Ross Wallace sees the power a woman has when he says that “For the hands that rocks the cradle is the hands that rules the world”.

For our Mothers, let them know how much we love her.

For our Mother Nature, let's stop polluting it and start taking good care of it.

For our Ibu Pertiwi, let’s not desert Her when she needs us to protect her.

let's do it while we still can...

"A mother is the truest friend we have

When trials heavy and sudden, fall upon us

When adversity takes the place of prosperity

When friends who rejoice with us in our sunshine desert us

When trouble thickens around us, still will she cling to us

And endeavour by her kind precepts and counsels

To dissipate the clouds of darkness

And cause peace to return to our hearts”

p.s. While women have proved that they are capable to achieve what men could do, it is high time for men to learn a thing or two from women.

I am so happy to read Reuter’s beautifully written article on "PAS liberates women at work". Islam never victimise women but liberates them.

p.s.s.s. Compare the above article with revelation by Mr. Sim Kwang Yang in his blogpost Penans with cars and big houses?” and Survival International’s report on “Government report confirms Penan girls were raped by loggers”. Macam langit dengan bumi!

p.s.s.s.s. When Kak Jat is ‘well-equipped’ to assist these people, she refused to do so. How much destruction we need to inflict our Mother Nature and its people? How many more mothers, out-of-wedlock, we need to have? How many more girls we need to ‘sacrifice’, all in their quest to acquire knowledge, before we put this nonsense to a complete stop? How many more children we need to deny their entry into school just because they do not have a birth certificate?

p.s.s.s.s. While in Pak Busu’s car to Mak Ndak’s house on the first day of Raya, I listened to the following nasyid by Yusuf Islam (previously known as Cat Stevens), which I’d like to share with all of you. Like all other faiths, Islam places our Mothers in the highest place. So, may we all remember to respect everyone and everything that is considered a Mother to us.

Who should I give my love to? My respect and my honor to
Who should I pay good mind to? After Allah and Rasulullah

Comes your mother
Who next? Your mother Who next? Your mother
And then your father

Cause who used to hold you, And clean you and clothes you
Who used to feed you? And always be with you
When you were sick, Stay up all night
Holding you tight, That's right no other
Your mother (My mother)

Who should I take good care of? Giving all my love
Who should I think most of? After Allah And Rasulullah

Comes your mother
Who next? Your mother. Who next? Your mother
And then your father

Cause who used to hear you, Before you could talk
Who used to hold you? Before you could walk
And when you fell who picked you up, Clean your cut
No one but your mother
My mother

Who should I stay right close to? Listen most to
Never say no to, After Allah And Rasulullah

Comes your mother
Who next? Your mother. Who next? Your mother
And then your father

Cause who used to hug you, And buy you new clothes
Comb your hair, And blow your nose, And when you cry
Who wiped your tears? Knows your fears. Who really cares?
My mother

Say Alhamdulillah
Thank you Allah, Thank you Allah
For my mother

1 comment:

Malaysian Heart said...

Hi Fisha,

"When she gets her baby and needs all the supports from them, no one comes forward."

"She bears his children and that is when he files for divorce. He left for another woman and left nothing for her and the children."

Hmmm, the solution might be to marry someone who is old, poor, not good looking, knows how to change diapers, and loves you for you ;-)